There is no lack of understanding that the media present images of women in various stages of life that don’t truly represent a realistic view of what is experienced. This is never truer than in pregnancy.
image credit: Mother and Baby Australia
No one seems to talk about this openly, I’m not sure why, but pregnancy isn’t and hasn’t been all that fantastic for me. I’m finding it a struggle to get to the place where I’m ‘glowing’ and just loving being a mum to be. Once you get over the morning sickness, regardless of its severity, you then move into a phase where you just feel fat and bloated before you really start to look like you’re expecting. For me, that was about 20 weeks, which some may think is great, but for me, I didn’t really feel like I was expecting until I felt the kicks and could see my belly was growing.
I’m now 23 weeks and although I don’t know how I’m going to feel two days from now, I realise that pregnancy isn’t going to be some dream where I feel like I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, or where I will suddenly discover some hugely maternal side to myself. Pregnancy is a time where I’m growing our child and if I don’t feel fantastic doing that, it’s OK. At least I know our child is healthy, is growing and is getting closer to being in the real world with us.