How do societal norms influence motherhood?

The influence of societal norms on motherhood is expansive. But first, what are societal norms? Societal norms are unwritten rules about how to behave. For example, as children we are taught to have good manners, to be polite to others, to eat with knives and forks and to wear clean clothes; these are societal norms….

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Learning to share more openly and freely

Although I was born in 1983 and fall on the cusp of Generation Y (ick!), I don’t really identify with the sharing culture. As I’ve grown older, I’ve gravitated towards sharing less, trying to keep parts of myself, just for myself. But on the other hand, so many times I’ve shared a story, and many…

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Why I dislike using the word ‘behavioural’

There is something about the word ‘behavioural’ that really irks me. For so long, I have had specialists and health professionals tell me that Ripley’s sleep issues are ‘behavioural’. Apart from some of it actually being completely normal (see the link to some studies), there is also a view that I am gradually becoming more…

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Talking to a child with a speech and language delay

Parenting throws us plenty of curve balls, and generally, I have found, there is no warning or guidance on how to react or proceed. Recently, we found out that Ripley has a significant speech and language delay, 12 months +. This was pretty alarming as it was only from booking an appointment with a speech…

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I am enough

Since my Ripley was born it has been 2 years, 3.5 months of waking every 1-2 hours. Sometimes I lose count of how many times I wake and other times I’m excited because it was only 3 times in a night. We have never had more than 5-6 hours of uninterrupted sleep since he was…

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Failing to be a minimalist

I am in a few minimalism groups on Facebook and also regularly talk to other people about minimalism, other mothers, family members or friends. I often hear the phrase ‘I want to be a minimalist’. There is no doubt that there is a prevalent view on what minimalism is, and it is heavily associated with…

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Giving yourself permission

One thing I think many women struggle with is permission to let go of things they don’t want, like or need. Many of us were brought up with parents who accumulated a lot of stuff and those parents have often kept ‘everything’ from your childhood so your children can one day play with it too….

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I need to let it go

After two long years of trying to “fix” Ripley’s sleep issues, I am going to give up. Even just writing that is tough. I’m not going to throw in the towel on motherhood but enough is enough. I care for him 24/7 and give more to him than I have to give.  Yes, he has…

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Taking back motherhood and every day life

More. Defined as ‘something more than she expected’ or greater than what is already. A concept so prevalent in our society, a concept that defines our choices and our thoughts. But why? Mothers with young children are particularly vulnerable to the concept of ‘more’. My facebook feed is full of posts from mothers in groups…

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