How many kids should I have?

As a child I never dreamed of a white wedding or being surrounded by kids. I was consumed by the singular goal of becoming a professional horse rider. As a young adult, the realities of supporting that goal hit hard and I had to ‘let go’ in order to pursue adult life – getting a…

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Empathy

Becoming a first time parent last year has been a fundamentally life changing experience. I adapted well to the lack of sleep and the change in lifestyle; coping well with the changes I think because we had such a rough start. Read more here

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Motherhood expectations: career

I’m interested in writing essays on expectations but I am conscious of how the topic has been covered by so many writers. I read ‘The Year of Yes’ by Shona Rhimes recently and found her refreshing viewpoint resonated with my changing views about motherhood. My aunt gave me a copy of a book called ‘The…

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Expectations

If you are following along from home you are probably seeing a trend to my thoughts and rambling. Thanks for reading by the way… For reasons that are vast, personal and difficult sometimes to discuss, I am as an adult very tied to the concept of expectations. Sometimes expectations are helpful, but a lot of…

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Saying no

I am getting so much better at saying no. It requires a lot of effort for such a simple two letter word. I don’t want to be busy, I don’t feel any need to adhere to anyone elses expectations of how my life should be. I’m not a mirror to anyone elses life, and I…

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Parenthood and expectations of sleep

Every parent wants to sleep more, there is no doubt that parenthood involves less sleep that being a freestyling pre-parent person. But for most, there is a linear progression from newborn sleep, to baby sleep to toddler sleep. Lots of parents have second children and got through it again, and possibly more times if they…

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The aftermath; grief and loss

I have to admit that before Ripley was born I didn’t truly understand grief and loss. Of course I’d experienced things in life that left me suffering with grief; the loss of a pet, breakup with a boyfriend, loss of my beautiful Nan. But these situations the grief doesn’t compound as much with memories or…

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